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"A Survival Course for The Sandwich Generation. Carol Abaya learned the hard way what it's like to care for Elderly Parents. She wants
to make it easier for others.

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Welcome to the Sandwich Generation®: a very special site.

Being a Sandwich Generationer - an elder/parent caregiver - is a new role on the stage of life for which no one can ever rehearse. Becoming a parent to an aging parent presents extraordinary challenges.

The challenges to elders are just as daunting. To lose control of one's life - even the little things - can be shocking and frustrating.

The term "sandwich generation" today is new in society's long history of the written language.

As a direct result of the work of Carol Abaya, since 2006 this term is found in the Oxford English and Merriam Webster Dictionaries.

Carol also coined the words "club sandwich generation" and "open face sandwich generation." Some day, they may also find their way into these prestigious dictionaries.

In the early 1990's very few had even heard of the term "sandwich generation." Most thought it was connected to a sandwich eaten by children who were "latch key" kids.

Carol was a pioneer in opening up discussion of the many challenges of elder/parent care and aging issues.

As she cared for her parents, Carol talked with caregivers around the world and started writing about the issues of aging. One of her primary focuses has been on the many emotional elements of both the elder's aging and sandwich generationers.

As more baby boomers become both sandwich generationers and seniors, the need to understand aging dynamics and family relationships increases dramatically.

As Carol says, it's not easy to become elderly or a parent to your parent(s). After all, our society "says" adults should be able to take care of themselves. But, as more live well into their 80s and 90s and families are dispersed across the country, everyone is going to be involved somehow, some way, in elder care. If not today, then tomorrow.

The Sandwich Generation
bullet Traditional: those sandwiched between aging parents who need care and/or help and their own children. 
bullet Club Sandwich: those in their 50s or 60s, sandwiched between aging parents, adult children and grandchildren. OR those in their 30s and 40s, with young children, aging parents and grandparents.
(Term coined by Carol Abaya)
bullet Open Faced: anyone else involved in elder care.
(Term coined by Carol Abaya)

This site is dedicated to providing timely and timeless in depth material to "Sandwich Generationers®," those sandwiched between aging parents and their own children, and covers a number of key areas, critical to elder care -- from aging in general to legal, medical and financial issues. Many TIPS oriented articles are offered at minimal cost at the Information Store. They are geared to help make the challanges of being a Sandwich Generationer® a little easier.

Carol Abaya Associates has also developed unique audience interactive programs that provide an unusual perspective of the emotions involved in aging, elder/parent care, and role reversal. They help develop techniques and build skills to achieve positive caregiving objectives, for both family and professional caregivers. More information about scheduling these lectures and seminars is available on the Lectures and Seminars page.

Just do remember:
There is no one right way or wrong way to "do" elder/parent care.
Every situation and relationship is different.
There is no magic wand to make a tough situation better.

As The Sandwich Generation® site is TIPS and sharing oriented, we would like to hear from you -- your concerns, your own experiences and TIPS that can help others. Just send us an Email at:


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